“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”
What if there are more to being miserable, than just learning to endure?
Jayanta dasa: Srila Gurudeva, as we perform our service, how can we know in our hearts that we are actually pleasing you?
Srila Gurudeva: Your soul will be happy. You will realize, “I am happy.” If one truly renders service to Srila Gurudeva, he will realize this. By seeing Gurudeva’s face, you will feel his benediction and mercy. On the other hand, if guru or Vaiasnavas are not satisfied with you, you will know it because you feel some unhappiness:
sa vai pumsam paro dharmo
yato bhaktir adhoksaje
[The supreme occupation (dharma) for all humanity is that by which men can attain to loving devotional service unto the transcendent Lord. Such devotional service must be unmotivated and uninterrupted to completely satisfy the self. *]
The symptom of unmotivated service is that one will surely be happy.
Source: Remembering The Lord’s Pure Devotees
So I’m right back at the “Chant and be happy” quote which I have problems agreeing with. At first I thought that there may be two divisions, material happiness and spiritual happiness. Materiel happiness is equated to tasting a little bit of honey while being in a perilous situation. Material happiness I know a little about, I have 35 years of experience in that field knowing moments of it’s counterpart with an “un” before it.
Then I realised that happiness is a feeling. When speaking about spiritual life, there words “eternity” and “ever new”, “fresh” are used which can also relate to feelings. Yet I still think there is a difference to spiritual happiness, but I don’t know what.
So what service could I do that would make Gurudeva happy with me? None. I try to chant every day, but happiness isn’t really the word I would use. “Calmness” and “leaning towards that place of rightness” is more my experience. Happiness seems to be such a huge word that requires so much effort that it’s intimidating. Trying to serve Gurudeva is intimidating. When I think of what it would require of me to serve Gurudeva, I get intimidated. I have more than enough of dealing with a job and a son, and I’m overwhelmed. I don’t have what it takes to distribute books, throw sunday parties with food and a lecture etc. When I get my son to bed, I crash in the sofa and I’m usually in bed by nine pm.
I want to experience that Gurudeva is happy with me. I hope he will settle for me reading the vedas, and I will try to chant a bit more rounds today like I do every day.
I will let you know if the happiness settles in.