Sripad B. G. Narasingha Maharaja on the disappearance day of Srila Sridhara Maharaja 2004
“He was very generous, to share his wealth with one and with all. He was not stingy. He was very gracious, kind and harmonizing. You may come and say: “Oh, this devotee said this, this devotee said that!”. Most people will then just jump and say: “Oh, then he should have a beating”. Immediately they will jump to one side. Srila Sridhara Maharaja would hear whatever you had to say, and then ask “Now, what does that other fellow have to say?”. Like in a court, let’s hear both sides of the story. He would not side with any party, and many times both parties are wrong. Then he would give a lesson, good for both parties. Not that he would just take a right or a wrong. Sometimes there was a right and a wrong. But even in right and wrong, is it always necessary to prove right and wrong? If you are such a black and white character in your dealings, you will always struggle with people. Maybe right, maybe wrong, harmonizing is the way to live peacefully. Not compromising. That’s a different thing. That’s when you put down your principles. But harmonizing should be one of your principles. There is a difference between compromise and harmonize. Harmonize is when you take it to a higher level. Compromise is that it goes to a lower level. Someone says this, and you come down, and you say “Ok” and we agree on some things down here, that’s compromise. Srila Sridhara Maharaja was a harmonizer, not a compromiser. He would try to harmonize for the benefit of everyone. You can defeat someone. Generally when you defeat someone, they don’t fall at your feet and tell you you’re right. They just shut their mouth in anger and go away. And they continue to talk their nonsense.
Krishna consciousness is not a debate thing. Yes, you have to put the other argument strongly in its place. But then you have to give a positive argument that is attractive. Of course many people are stubborn. They are both put in their place, and being shown something attractive, but they don’t change. They just remain in this particular space. Srila Sridhara Maharaja was always giving positive encouragement. It doesn’t help to just punish a child. If it stops there, you broke the kid’s mind in half. Like, “What do I do now?”, stuck on a ledge. You have to correct, show the right thing and then give some encouragement about doing right. With Srila Sridhara Maharaja, at the end there was always this positive, glowing, encouraging outlook about any situation.”
Compliments of Syamananda Prabhu