Three years later…

I have been quiet for three years now. The reason was I lost the belief that Krishna exist. I haven’t written about it while it happened because it was so intensely personal and I guess unreal. I have been a devotee since I was 17 – who was I when I no longer believed?  I also knew that even though I was lost for now, if I ever found my way back it would be within Gaudiya Math. I love the richness of the siddhanta, the deepness of it, the never-ending discoveries that could be made (which controversy apparently is my preference of finding treasures) and how it triggers the qualities I really like in myself like doing research, writing and using it as a way of personal growth.

Much can be said about losing ones faith, and I don’t think those who believe understand how difficult it is to stop believing. After this experience, words like blooping and the general judgmental understanding by devotees is shallow at best. It was like somebody pulled the ground beneath my feet and I fell… and kept falling for these years. Because I have never become comfortable in not believing. Krishna consciousness wasn’t just a lifestyle, it was also a huge part of my identity. Without that identity, a huge part of what generated meaning and purpose in life fell away. Can you imagine how it is to get your identity ripped away from you? The place you generate meaning and purpose in life? What comes after, that can possibly replace that?

Though I was lost, I have missed my faith all the way through and I guess this is why I’m writing now. May be my personal growth has now entered a phase where I’m beginning to become ready… but for what and how?

How am I supposed to find my way back again? Because I miss. And I miss you devotees. Losing you by turning my back has been a real loss, though I’m the one who did it.

I also know I can’t go back to the person I was before. I’m not a vegetarian anymore, and I will not go back to it. I have developed an interest in astrology, and my north node is in libra, 1st House for those who are interested in it. This is a really difficult aspect, because I have to develop the self, who I am while Libra and the 1st house is counter. North node is also conjunct the Ascendant and Pluto is close by (5 degree conjunction, 1st House).

I have an intense need to figure myself out and how I want to live my life, being true to my values. As of now this is counter to bhakti which require unconditional service to Krishna. And my need is to really develop myself – and slowly and carefully approach the faith again. And what better way than to read siddhanta and writing about it, since this is who I am. But I can’t do anymore deprivation stuff. I don’t have it in me to give anything I don’t want to give. I don’t have it in me to deprive myself of anything. I need to love the bejesus of myself.

There is a very real resistance in my towards doing any service to Krishna. I have to heed that resistance for now. During the last year I have been part of the scouts, and I learned acts of service there and learned to extend myself in ways I haven’t done as a devotee. It has been eye-opening and one way of learning how unconditional service works. It’s just another path that has the same destination.

I need to do what I want to do – and if it happens to coincide with service to Krishna, then good. I literally can’t do anything that goes counter to who I am. There is something within me that needs that space to grow right now.

So I would like to know how other devotees lost their faith and came back. How did it work for you? What steps did it entail – what growth needed to happen and how did you approach the faith again? Please share your wisdom with me.

8 thoughts on “Three years later…

  1. I do understand the part of leaving Krishna Consciouness because many leave and it’s not easy to follow at all. I just don’t understand, why are you not a vegetarian anymore? I used to love meat and I became vegetarian because of KC, however I became consciouness after how much cruelty there is in meat industry. So if someday I will leave KC (I do not intend), I would not vegetarianism.

    • That I’m not vegetarian anymore is not something I can defend in any way. It has made my life so much easier (personally as I don’t like cooking, my body is happy I eat more proteins and socially here in norway it’s just so very,very easier); it’s still not okey morally, ethically.

      For me it wasn’t because it’s difficult to follow (though that is an issue now that I’m figuring out a way towards my faith again), but because I experienced something that kc didn’t deal with adequately. I found that the way the philosophy dealt with evil to be really simplistic and ignorant. It just pretty much stamped all people that didn’t believe in God to be evil and just those who believe to begin being humans. This is so very different from my experience. Being religious and evil is two things that can go together. Being an atheist and a really conscientious, empathic person exist (and more so than an apparent religious person). I went through something traumatic and I didn’t find anything consoling or relevant in the philosophy. Psychology on the other hand contained all my answers. I just found kc philosophy to be lacking in this one area – and that generated a huge crisis for me.

  2. While in KC, I’ve changed many times my perspectives and my faith. Even now, I changed my belief in the guru-parampara being all knowning (sarva-jnata) to sadhakas in different stages of development. I prefer to keep a open minded view and try to balance the instructions of guru-parampara according the facult of reason.

  3. you write so many thing and not chant Hare Krsna and Gayatri, you waste your life..

    chant 192 round maha mantra daily
    do or die

    have Faith, jagai madai event finish 2 lakh round daily, what are you doing?
    only chatting in internet, what you expect?

    • Is it that easy? If it takes jivas many lifetimes to achieve kc, is it really that easy?

      If you have that attitude, do what you suggest? Are you able to do this year after year… With what result?

      Is it that easy?
      My answer is no. Part of this process is becoming humble and soft. I don’t become more humble and soft without having to walk through huge obstacles that humbles me. This path is difficult. And yes – I will talk about it because I need to. I need that community.

  4. Haribolo, I feel sorry for you to hear that you lost your trust in Krishna. For me it seems to be impossible to go that far, although I know very well how it feels when there seems to be no answers for certain tribulations one has in life within KC. I never was reluctant to look for help elsewhere, likewise having toothpain, I dont look in the SB for help. So as a lusty person I often lost track of my sadhana ,but never of my believe. I also gave up being a vegetarian 11 years ago and became a vegan prasadarian. Eating meat is not possible for me. When I joind the movement I was already free from that. I think Srila Gurudeva would say to you: Stop this nonsense now. Meat – me eat – eat me. Anyway wish you good luck and wise decisions. ys Narahari

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